They’re Complaining About NOT Being Able to Grab Ass

Twin Cities Pioneer Press:  MN lawmakers want to make butt-grabbing illegal. (Currently, there’s a clothed-buttocks exception.)


The press, in a split-decision so far, is treating this as if it’s something BAD. To make it illegal to grope someone’s ass. That’s BAD. No. It is not.

This is small potatoes and should be on the law books in every municipality.

We in the United States of America currently *condone* sexual assault and *condemn* being sexually active and experienced. We *condone* slut-shaming. We *condone* victim-blaming. We *condone* making women afraid via catcalling and unwanted advances.

We *condone* Coercive Control.

We *condone* Stalking.

We *condone* rape. We accommodate *rapists*. Rapists and Serial rapists currently serve 2-5 years after only getting 8 year sentences, on average. It is an outlier if a rapist gets 10 years. It’s virtually impossible to get life in prison. These people are a danger to society, but they’re repeatedly let out of prison or given probation or let off completely because the victims are shamed and revictimized.

We *condone* child abuse. (corporal punishment)

We *condone* parent-authorized child rape. (child marriage) **There is currently NO age limit in the U.S. for child marriage.** This includes so-called Liberal states. If a parent/s wants to marry their daughter off to some pervert, they can. Even if that daughter is five years old. They disguise it as religious freedom, but it’s nothing more than child slavery and child sex trafficking.

And some people are having a fucking cow about not being able to grab ass.

What the fucking goddamn hell is wrong with this picture.

Greatest Country in the world? It never existed and it sure as fuck doesn’t exist now.

I advise everyone who gets their ass grabbed by some dumbfuck who thinks they have the right to break their goddamn fingers, their wrist, and their confidence.  That goes for sexual assault, threats, stalking, and every MFer who thinks they have to right to make people afraid.  It’s long past time to put a stop to it.


Now, all that said, nothing will get done to protect women, children, and those who can’t defend themselves until we stop living in a Patriarchal society that celebrates misogyny and assault.  It’ll never stop until our society turns egalitarian.  Frankly, that’s likely going to take another 1,000 years if we haven’t killed off our entire species by then after Mother Nature’s done with us.





Matt Damon’s Misconduct Remarks

The Guardian: Minnie Driver: men like Matt Damon ‘simply cannot understand what abuse is like’

“”In an interview with ABC News this week, Damon said there was “a difference between patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation. Both of those behaviours need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated.””

*closes eyes*
*takes deep breath*
*adjusts language controls*

Dear Matt Damon:

“Patting *someone* on the butt”:  Patting women on the ass.

You fucking asshole. We’re not talking about women’s sports and locker room or sports field behavior. Women get this invasion of personal space on a daily basis. It’s unwanted and a violation of ethics.

Picture this, Matt Damon: You’re standing there or walking there. Everything *seems* to be going great. And then you feel someone’s hand on your ass. Some dirty-ass man has just groped you. That’s what it is. Groping. Groping isn’t just sliding a hand under clothing. It’s any unwanted touching.

Patting a woman’s ass is something an asshole does because he thinks he *has the right*.  He thinks, “Nice, I’ll touch that, cop a freebie feel.  What’s she gonna say?  I patted her on the ass like one football player to another.  No big deal.  Why complain?  Suck it up and move on.”

I suggest you get your tunnel-visioned head out of your ass. And I hope to god your opinion isn’t based on defending your own violations of women.  If it is, you need to learn a lesson and fast.

Stop acting so goddamn surprised when famous people are exposed as predators

Sexual Harassment.  It’s as old as Patriarchy.  As old as prostitution.  You know that.  And you were quite happy to ignore it.

  • If you’re a woman who’s shocked by the revelations that have been exposed over the last two years, you have willingly turned a blind eye.
  • If you’re a man, and you don’t understand what these women are complaining about, you’re part of the problem.

Think this is a recent development?  You haven’t been paying attention *on purpose*.  Why?  Not your fault, for the most part.  Why not?  Who’s to blame?  We are.  For allowing men to prey on women with not just a blind eye, but social Acceptance.

A. Casting couch.  The “famous” Hollywood problem that no one does anything about.

B. Secretary harassment.  Example: the secretary in the film “9 to 5”.  The famous acts by millions of bosses that no one does anything about.

C. Catcalls.  The famous acts by men in groups (and indoctrinated women, if they are with them) who fall sway, on purpose, to the pack mentality.

D. Marital Rape.

E. Second-class citizen.

F. The Dirty Old Man isn’t arrested.  Ex-judge Roy Moore anyone?

Until 1988’s The Accused, which purposely pointed out the horrendous treatment of a rape victim by the judicial system, law enforcement, and public opinion, proper criminal treatment of rape was minimized.

Despite advancement in the recognition of rape as a serious crime, it is still treated with minimization and disregard.  Rape as a felony isn’t a federal statute, nor is there a mandatory sentence under certain requirements.  It’s left up to individual prosecutors in every single jurisdiction and the majority of rapists won’t see a day in prison.  Rape is so minimized and dismissed that it’s trotted out as an excuse for snot-nosed, over-priced, over-protective parents to cry about if their “baby girl” has had sex.  The boyfriend is attacked and thrown in jail.  When something truly horrific happens, they don’t know what to do.

  • A girl is raped by her uncle and no one does a goddamn thing.  It’s just kept in the family and treated as an unfortunate event.  The man is dangerous, but he’s considered family.  Meanwhile, the girl (or boy) suffers. Rape isn’t sex.
  • Sexual intercourse and oral/physical contact is used as a weapon for the purposes of sexual sadism, sexual intimidation, sexual coercion, and sexual blackmail.  When a male offender doesn’t have a penis, he’ll use whatever is at hand.  Rape isn’t sex.
  • When the Buddhists of Burma rape Muslim women, or when the slave patrols of the south raped black women, or when Muslim men rape Muslim women, or when husbands rape their wives, it isn’t as an act of “getting off”.  It’s sadism used as punishment.  Rape isn’t sex.
  • Gay rape is even more condoned and minimized thanks to society’s brainwashing against homosexuality. It has nothing to do with being gay. Rape is not sex.

This recent outrage over the light sentence of a rich boy’s criminality is an example of society’s condonation.  The outrage was superficial and not taken seriously because the rape wasn’t brutal and didn’t result in the woman’s death.  No serious action was taken in response.  The judge said he didn’t want to ruin the poor boy’s future.  The woman, on the other hand?  Fuck her.  Public opinion isn’t a proper legal tactic for a prosecutor, and it never should be, but when a judge awards a perpetrator a light sentence because the boy is a) rich, and b) white, we have a huge problem.  And it’s ignored.  Further, the rape of this woman was dismissed by a large portion of society, and specifically, by the news media.


Because harassers (including stalkers), rapists, molesters, and those who beat up women on an hourly basis don’t consider it a crime.

Rape kits are treated with less priority than a polygraph, and the latter isn’t even accepted (officially) in a court of law.

The following is a list of industry award centers that routinely condone harassment, assault, and rape:

The Academy of Arts and Sciences

Hollywood Foreign Press (Golden Globes)

Screen Actors Guild

The British Academy Film Awards

and other industry centers.

They have failed to give recognition of exceptional work to films like The Accused because the subject matter is common place.

Many, many people abuse their power.  It’s as ordinary, and accepted, as an abusive husband or a President of the United States.

When the offender holds the highest position of the country, or sits on the highest court, why isn’t the country outraged?

Because it’s COMMON.  There are famous men out there who are still lauded because: Rape is not important enough to condemn them.  Examples:  Kobe Bryant and Mike Tyson.  They aren’t the exception.  They are the rule.

So don’t act all outraged when Kevin Spacey or Russell Simmons or any other favorite persona is accused and they’re immediately ostracized for a while before they’re forgiven.

Well, except for Kevin Spacey (gay) or Russell Simmons (black).  And therein lies a whole other kettle of condonement.

Countering Anti-Abortion Protesters

We who are ambivalent or Pro-Choice HAVE TO get off our asses and COUNTER-PROTEST.

We have to SCREAM this back to them:

NO it is NOT murder!

YOU are violating the rights of your fellow citizens!

YOU are violating the health and welfare of children by ignoring them after they’re born!

YOU are an accessory to murder by ignoring homeless, hungry, and sick children!

YOU are accessory to murder by ignoring the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children!

Terrorists Are Also Abusers of Women

Jane Harkness (I love that last name–Torchwood and Dr. Who fans will know what I mean) makes a qualified case about terrorism: The men who do it, by and large, are also abusers of women.

It seems to me that the majority of resources intended for the prevention of terrorism should be to stop misogyny and the victimization of women. This deduction is on par with the serial killer triad, which is: Pyromania(fascination with setting fire to things or people), enuresis(inability to control urination during sleep), and cruelty to animals.

If there’s a child over the age of 10 who has been found to participate in all three of these indicators, that child needs to be hospitalized at a critical care facility for the insane. I’m *not* kidding.  However, former FBI profilers like John Douglas suggest that after the age of 12, a future serial killer is born because it is at that age that most children have personality affectations that are difficult to eradicate.  There are several past serial killers who committed murder before the age of 14.

To ignore this triad of symptoms is to be a (usually unknowing, but that’s the point) participant in future crimes.  Our society breeds these people.  It is We who have to put a stop to it and in the meantime, take care of the damaged (and I don’t mean killing them).  Some blame should be on those who created this aberrant human being, but it’s a case-by-case decision because so many families have been abusive for many generations.

It is also likely that many of these children have or will become political and religious terrorists and the abuse of women will be at the top of the list of criminal deeds.  While many won’t have abused their own female family members, it should be noted that most serial killers murder women exclusively.

Taking this into account, the same qualifiers can be a warning for current and future terrorists, except that the qualifier is the abuse of women. Combine that criminal behavior with an extremist philosophy and you have a potential terrorist (IMO, they have already acquired the terrorist moniker since they’ve committed terror on women). It doesn’t matter what skin color they have, what their religion (if any) is, and it doesn’t matter what class they belong to.  They all need to be stopped.

To Those Who Think Women Are Already Equal

(based on assumptions made after women were *allowed* to vote, wear what they want, say what they want, have whatever job they want)

1.  When a married couple files jointly, the IRS doesn’t use both social security numbers. They *demand*, by their rules, that the man’s number be used. His is the first name, the *primary* name, and the woman’s is the second, and thus part of the man’s filing. It is thus, less important.

This is not for simplification or for some ham-handed method of “ease of identification” nor is it used as part of an easier filing system. It is used because we live in a patriarchal society that is fundamentalist where men are considered the higher position in the joined arrangement (marriage).

2. When women marry men, they are expected to take the man’s name. This is due to a system called Patrilineal, where all inheritance and ancestry is viewed only through male lines. This system comes hand in hand with Patriarchy. Even if the woman keeps her last name, she is still seen as Mrs Male Name.

I can’t help but wonder how the IRS rules are implemented under same-sex marriage, but it doesn’t really matter.  Someone is placed in a higher position (in charge) than the other.

3. Patriarchy/Patrilineality and Matriarchy/Matrilineality are systems of inequality because they favor one gender over the other. As long as those systems are in place, genders will never be equal.

There are some Native American tribes that split this down the middle. Positions of leadership were Patriarchal but inheritance and ancestral identification was Matrilineal. Men led the tribe but the women owned the property. Unfortunately, those tribes were murdered to such an extent that it can be filed under genocide.

However, one must consider that our current system of democratic government–representation–can be traced specifically to the Five Nations of the upper east.  While people think we got it by copying ancient Rome, the only part of that system that was copied were the names “senate” and “senator”.  But this is neither here nor there.

Women are automatically second-class citizens in a Patriarchal society. In the age of extremism, abortion *&* birth control are being eliminated in ultra conservative states.  Women are under attack by being told that they have no control of their own reproduction.  Restrictions are masked as “pro-life”, with a morality that is forced onto everyone by those who believe abortion is murder.  One must understand that this has nothing whatsoever to do with the so-called “life” of fetal embryos.

Pro-life is an oxy-moron as well as a lie because concern for the life of that fetus ends when it is born.  You cannot delineate a life inside the womb to life outside of it.  Anti-abortion is *only* for the systematic control of women.  This is proven by the addition of birth control.  Anyone who feels it necessary to include birth control with their attempts to control the abortion of fetal tissue is revealing themselves to be misogynistic control freaks who believe women are *property*.

Women are one half of the human race.  We are not the property of the human race.  We belong only to ourselves.

Trying to Correct the Uncorrectible

There’s this pastor (Protestant: evangelical Christian) who has decided that gays aren’t evil.

Upworthy’s A pastor shares the exact moment he changed his mind about the LGBTQ community.

While Ryan hadn’t been hostile toward the LGBTQ community before, now he admits his lack of attention to the subject helped create a culture of fear surrounding homosexuality and the church.

Since Ryan announced that EastLake would be an open and affirming church, hundreds of people have left the church. But Ryan stands by his decision.

“I don’t care if the Bible says, ‘Gay people suck,’” he says. “I have lots of things I disagree with about the Bible.”

Note: hundreds of people have left over relaxing view of LGBTQ people. Aren’t they supposed to “love everyone” because “Jesus” told them to?  Of course not. Because “he” never “said” that.


Anyways, while his opinion of gays has changed, Pastor Meeks still believes gay people will go to hell.  He’s just decided to be nicer about it so they’ll follow his god’s laws.  Those laws that say:  here’s how to hate and fear everyone who isn’t you, here’s what you eat, here’s when to eat it, here’s what to wear and how to make it, here’s what to grow and and how to grow it, here’s how to slaughter animals to a specific god and for a variety of reasons, and here are all the animals and people you have to hate.


The shitheels writing the Books of Moses while pretending to be Moses were seriously fucked up dudes.  Why am I saying “dudes”?  Because there are four different sources to those books of Moses (documents called “J”, “E”, “P”, and “D”) and those people writing them did so several hundred years after those so-called events happened and they wrote different versions of the same events.


Regardless, we still the problem in believing in a book that has cost MILLIONS of lives, and that’s a low number, especially if you take seriously all the tribes that “Israel” slaughtered for no other reason than a) they had nothing better to do/felt threatened for no good reason, or b) this so-called god told them to do it. That so-called god of the Old Testament murdered millions by flooding the entire planet because he suddenly got a bug up his ass for those millions not worshipping him. Well, if he was really a GOD, then he simply could have changed everyone’s minds instead of pointlessly slaughtering them. Which goes to show you how spectacularly fictional the Old Testament is.

Humans have this need to make sense and meaning out of their lives and basic Pagan religion is the result.  On the other hand, “Religions” based on the Pentateuch/Torah/Qu’ran/New Testament are based on books whose authors were nothing more than authoritarian nutjobs equal to Jim Jones.

Buddha is the exception, but combine Buddhism with authoritarian regimes (pre-1960s China, Far East countries like Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, etc., ancient Japan) and voila, murder. Hinduism is an offshoot of Buddhism (determined by archaeological study of migration patterns) which turned into a polytheistic religion, but Mahatma Gandhi was forced to fight for the right to live independent lives and the reason that happened was due to British colonialism, and other countries pulled the same shit due to an authoritarian belief which centered on following the “corrected” Bible, which “told” them to convert every single non-believer.

(I should also add that “Pagan”, Hindu, and Buddhist “religions” don’t feel the need to “convert” non-Pagans/Hindus/Buddhists.)

Currently, we in the U.S. have factions who are ready, willing, and able to slaughter tens of thousands of lives (particularly black and gay) and they “blame” (my word) their need to do this because the Bible tells them to do it. Well, pardon me, but …

a) Christians have nothing whatsoever to do with the Old Testament so whomever they’re following to justify killing gays, it isn’t Jesus.
b) Christians are confused because they don’t know who to worship: Jesus or Yahweh/Elohim/Jehovah. In order to call yourself a Christian, you HAVE TO pick Jesus.

Every single book in the Bible/Torah/Qu’ran is vehemently anti-woman. To single out half the human race for slavery and oppression is a heinous act and deserves no respect. Period.


So while this pastor aims to be a bit more egalitarian toward his fellow humans, he still follows a book that subscribes to murder, rape, and slavery.  I’d admire him more if he chose to be an atheist in order to treat everyone as he would like to be treated.


Lastly, does my being Wiccan say I’m a hypocrite?  No.  What I believe is for me alone.  I despise those who oppress and enslave and murder and I try not to do the same to others.  Does that mean that my “goddess” is no more real than the authoritarian male gods?  Yes.  She is simply my interpretation of nature, which rules all.  And you cannot deny that nature rules us all without looking like a complete moron.