I think the best way to view your “racism” meter is to imagine a scenario.
It really doesn’t matter if you’re a woman or a man, but honestly, the threat meter ratchets up if you’re a woman b/c we live in a dangerously sexist society, never mind a racist one.
You’re walking down a sidewalk and you see a group of men. Young, old, take your pick, but they’re usually young and mid-range. (20s-30s and who the hell is afraid of a bunch of beginner teens)
They’re coming toward you. They’re joking, talking, whatever.
They spy you. If you’re a woman, you’re automatically on alert and feel threatened because society in general is blind where women’s fears are concerned. Honestly, we should go on the offensive and start belittling and catcalling, etc. and see how the hell they like it.
If you’re a man, you’re not threatened unless you belong to a minority that is daily threatened. Gay men, for example.
Now, if they’re white, how do you feel?
Personally, I’ve changed my outlook over the years. I used to feel threatened by black men because I was brainwashed by society in general to think this way. Now, I feel threatened when I see a group of white men congregating or coming toward me or even driving by. The racist ones think they’re being threatened by having this view put upon them, but the dumbfucks don’t understand that they’re the ones who rule and any condemnation toward their attitude makes them feel threatened and they literally can’t see how ironic that is, never mind seriously sick.
I’m a white woman (57) and I have a few prejudices against me–female, short, fat, poor, older. I have Native blood (1/8th, if my alcoholic dad could be trusted on his failing knowledge, and as a poor person, I can’t go get a DNA test just for shits and giggles) so I’m well aware of the racist history there.
I use this scenario as a test on my personal racism. I can say that I’m damn glad I’ve changed over the years, but it still pisses me off that I thought that shit to begin with.